The foundation for happiness begins with surrendering the false sense of control that we have over  people and circumstances. Surrendering to happiness means:

Letting our loved ones face the consequences of their decisions

Ignoring regret by focusing on the present and planning for the future

Accepting the reality that we cannot change others 

Recognizing that we cannot change the past but we can learn from what has happened

Replacing feelings of inadequacy with dedication to self-improvement

Substituting fear of failure with new approaches for getting things done

Taking responsibility for the choices we make